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Book Review Friday – Slow Dance in Paris

If you’re looking for a gentle lesbian romance story, this is it.

Mary Wright’s Slow Dance in Paris follows the adventures of Sophie, an unsophisticated young American fresh from high school in the early 1970’s. Confused about a sexual liaison she has with a hippie after smoking hashish, unsure if she’s been raped or not, Sophie puts everything behind her. She’s finishing a grand tour of Europe when she meets a pair of charming lesbians. At their invitation, she goes to her first ever gay bar, where she dances with Genvieve, a fascinating woman who captures her imagination.

Is Sophie gay? She’s had attractions to girls before, but has also chalked up two boyfriends in her past. Although unsure about her orientation, every time she’s with Genvieve the young American heroine finds herself drawn closer to the exotic world of lesbianism. However, just after they begin a tentative relationship Sophie must move to another town where her school is located.

Separated by kilometers and the restraints of job and school, Sophie is drawn closer and closer to the idea of being a lesbian, even as the differences between having a girlfriend as opposed to a boyfriend become embarrassingly clear. People who were friends treat her differently, and she finds herself restricted in ways unexperienced by straights. It makes her uncomfortable, but she soon forgets everything when held in the strong arms of her new lover.

Eventually everything builds to a head as Sophie deals with an unwanted pregnancy, a mail strike, and massive guilt over her choice to have an abortion. Will her burgeoning relationship with Genvieve continue to grow if the Parisienne learns the truth, or will Sophie’s choices lead her back to the world of heterosexuals and so called normality?

Slow Dance in Paris is an easy, gentle read, one that takes you into the mind of a young woman during a time when women’s liberation and gay pride were still in their infancies. The city of Paris, and the surrounding landscape are artfully captured by the author, who deftly weaves them into her story as characters in their own right. If you’re looking for a lighthearted romantic story, spend some lazy afternoons curled up with Mary Wright’s Slow Dance in Paris. You won’t be sorry.

Sex Sells And So Does Sexism


 
Have you seen these vintage ads floating around? Do you find them shocking?

 

These ads were indicative of American society as a whole – and they were all post WWII – trying to put Rosie the Riveter back in her domesticated place. What bothers me most is that so many young women of the 21st century are buying this idea that they should be small, frail, domesticated home makers rather than taking their places in the wider world. With our male dominated society refusing to see women as anything other than a saint, or a whore, it’s up to the women to insist on being recognized as much, much more than that.

Sadly, sexist advertising has existed since long before WWII. Putting women in their place, and letting us know that we should either work harder for our man, look harder for a man, or be ashamed for being dangerous to men, were everywhere.

  
 

This recent nonsense about men/boys being discriminated against and needing a special boost up in the world is maddening. Yes, boy should be treated well so they can grow up to be the best they can be. How lucky for them that almost all discretionary funds and teacher time and attention is spent on them from 7th grade up. Idiots like Sherry and Jenny keep perpetuating this stupid idea that boys are receiving less attention than girls. Any time we focus on girls or women, we’re reminded forcefully to refocus our attention on men, as we should.

When you see a sexist ad, contact the company and complain loudly. Let’s stop this parade of self-defeatist campaigns aimed at women. If you want to help someone reach their full potential, spend time on the girls.

Ban the word bossy from your vocabulary, and refuse to let it be used on your daughters. Encourage them to participate in math, sports, science, and everything else in which they show an interest. Take them places and show them the world, let them do things, introduce them to powerful women and constantly remind them that they CAN DO IT. Time for Rosie to get back to riveting, and building, and creating more than coffee for breakfast.